Don't Take Things Personally - #MotivateUs Quote of the Day + Something Extra
Published: Wed, 11/11/15
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Quote: "Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and
actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering."--- Don Miguel Ruiz Now onto the "little extra" for today: Do Your Feelings Get Hurt Too Easily? Ten Tips On "How Not To Take Things To Heart" Any interaction with another person, whether it is with your boss, a customer, your father or your friend has the opportunity to lead to hurt
or irritation. Some people get hurt more easily than others. They can be particularly sensitive and take things to heart. Here are some tips to help you stop taking things personally so you can leave your interactions in a happier way. Know why you are hurting Know why you are hurting and respond accordingly. Are you hurting because of something that has happened in your history? Are you adding your history to the present moment and therefore adding fuel to something small and making it appear bigger? For example, if your mother has looked at you in a certain way since childhood and she's looked at you in the same way today - do you react because of the way she looked today or the way she looked at you as a child? If it's the latter, try reacting as if this was the first time you'd ever seen the look! Laugh and make light of it Laughter can be a wonderful cure and reliever. If you can keep light about a potential put-down then the put-down has no power. This doesn't mean that you leave yourself open to abuse. What it does mean is that you can more easily brush off potentially hurtful comments. Tell someone else about what was said and turn it into a funny story. Tell someone else what has happened and tell it in a way that makes it funny. Do a caricature -
exaggerate what was said - think of a funny line back ... build it up until it's funny - this will help the hurt to dissipate. Delay your response Many people retaliate very quickly before they've even had time to think through what has been said. It's a bit like someone throwing something at you. Would you just stand there and let it hurt you or would you duck? Delaying is like ducking. Pause before you respond. Then you give yourself time to think of a good response and to check that you're not adding hurt to what was said. Hmmm.. what are some other tips? Read the rest of the article: Love and blessings, Marlene Oh yes, a link to the image: |