What Is Emotional Intelligence? - Quote of the Day and "Something Extra" - How To Improve Emotional Intelligence
Published: Wed, 10/17/18
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Hi , It's Wednesday, October 17,
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Quote: "It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph
of heart over head -- it is the unique intersection of both." --- David Caruso |
This Week's "Something Extra" Question: How can we improve our emotional
intelligence? The Single Most Important Thing You Can Do to Build Emotional Intelligence by Jennifer Guttman, PsyD Clinical
Psychology. The most important factor in attempting to cultivate emotional intelligence is the importance of listening and not talking. When people feel like they are having difficulty with a social skill, their insecurities bring on talking. So, when people are insecure about something, they tend to talk a lot. The most important thing when you're trying to learn a
skill often is to just be quiet. Listening is a vital part of trying to learn about emotional intelligence. When you're in a social situation, listening to what people are saying in order to understand their emotional experience helps develop a sense of compassion and empathy. This will allow you to better understand what it would be like to be in their shoes. A key part of emotional intelligence
is being better able to understand life from their experience, as opposed to making assumptions that their experience is the same as your experience. None of our experiences are the same. Developing emotional intelligence is developing more breadth of a word bank or a mood. A lot of people struggle with having enough words to describe moods. They have a limited word bank. If you're listening
carefully enough, that might help develop a broader word bank to describe mood states. The broader the word bank you have to describe a mood, the more effective you will become in being able to ask targeted questions to people about how they feel. Listen, then move to mindful questions about how a person may be feeling. It's important not to overwhelm people with questions, because people
don't respond well to that. Instead, be mindful about the questions you ask by trying to relate to how they may be feeling. Try pulling the words you use in conversation from a bank of words that you've developed over time from listening. Let's continue to the rest of the article: Sending love and blessings, Marlene Today's picture is available at:
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